Ironi dalam sepotong kalimat

Hari ini saya entah mengapa merasa tersinggung dengan kalimat yang dituliskan oleh seseorang di milis yg saya ikuti. Kalimatnya: "Ironis sekali mengaku buddhis tapi tidak kenal biksu A".

Entah karena ada sepotong kebenaran di dalam kalimatnya, atau karena ada nada "discouragement" di dalamnya. Entah, mungkin juga karena kebijaksanaan saya kurang sehingga bisa terpancing oleh kalimat tsb.

Saya sendiri mengaku Buddhis selama bertahun-tahun tanpa pernah mengenal ajarannya. Saya sempat malu mengaku Buddhis dan mengikuti pelajaran agama lain yg diajarkan di sekolah. Ya, saya buddhis, tapi tidak memiliki akses kepada informasi dan ajaran Buddhis.

Saya tidak terlahir di keluarga yg religius. Orangtua saya, tidak pernah mengajak saya ke vihara. Mereka mengajarkan saya untuk bersembahyang kepada Dewi Kwan Im. Dulu, saya pikir itu cukup. Dewi Kwan Im yg saya kenal dengan "Emak Bayang" itu juga saya kenal sedikit lebih jauh dari film serial Kera Sakti. Saya pikir, memuja Dewi Kwan Im adalah Buddhisme. Sampai saat saya belajar di sekolah bahwa ada seseorang bernama Siddharta Gautama yang telah mengalami penerangan sempurna. Demikian sajalah pengetahuan umum saya, seorang Buddhis, selama 18 tahun hidup saya.

Ironis. Ya. Tapi, jika ketika usia saya 18 tahun dan seseorang mengucapkan kalimat: "Ironis sekali mengaku buddhis tapi tidak kenal biksu A", mungkin saya tidak akan pernah mau mengenal lebih dalam Buddhisme. Cukup sekian dan terima kasih. Saya tidak ingin mengenal Biksu A untuk mengesahkan ke"Buddhis"an saya, karena siapalah dia - Biksu A, tanpa bermaksud mengecilkan beliau - yang harus saya kenal itu? Sesakti apa sih sampai harus dikenal oleh semua org Buddhis?

Kalau saya, keinginan untuk mengenal seseorang itu akan bertambah jika mendengar cerita tentang karyanya, pengaruhnya terhadap orang banyak, dibandingkan dengan kalimat ironi penuh sindiran seperti di atas.

Bagi saya, kalimat tersebut termasuk kategori kasar dan menyinggung. Menurut saya, ada sekelumit arogansi di dalamnya.

Kalau saya, akan berusaha menghindari kalimat demikian, karena saya sendiri tidak menyukai "impact" kalimat tersebut terhadap pembaca. Saya sendiri saja merasa tersinggung, apalagi orang lain? Bagaimana kalau ada orang lain yg merasa tersinggung dan kehilangan minat untuk mempelajari Buddhisme lebih jauh? Bukankah seharusnya orang-orang yang memiliki pengetahuan itulah yang membaginya kepada mereka yang tidak tahu?

Mungkin cuma beda gaya komunikasi. Mungkin cuma saya yang sensi saja. Tapi mungkin juga ada orang lain yang sependapat dengan saya.

#just thinking

18Jan2012

This might be one of the best days in 2012. I left the office on time, when the sky was still bright. Something I never had earlier in 2012.

I went shopping with my sister, spent some time in the dressing room, leaving the other shoppers waiting outside our door :) We had a light meal, one of my favorites, okonomiyaki and takoyaki. After, we went to Giant and shop all the things needed and wanted. Dropped a bottle of UC-1000 on the floor and left it unpaid after calling the janitor. Sorry! :(

Going home after redeeming our shopping slip with two tiny jars from the mall management, I got to spoil myself with a full body treatment. Quite a luxury I didn't have within the last 2 weeks.

This is a happy day for me. How's yours?

New year, new hope

But one needn't to wait the new year to have a new hope. 

Have hope, have faith. 

Embrace your every moment. 

Enjoy the present.

Pic from here

Good news, bad news

We'd always be expecting for the good news, not for the good bad one.

Well, today I got a great one. Secret project in progress. Yaay.. Can't wait for the next Monday to get my special something for a special surprise for my special someone :*
I'll write here when the time has come.

I also got a not-so-good one. So, there's this someone who's been missing for quite some time and today I heard that she's actually on vacation now. Well, it's been bad before, and it's not going to get better I think.

Not that I don't care about her. I tried to talk to her but she didn't respond. I just don't know how to help her if she didn't even talk to me, right?

Yes, I'm making excuses. But I think she should've been mature enough to know about good/bad, and her attitude for the last 2 months has not been a good one.

Pic from here 

Grandma's birthday

Today's Grandma's birthday! We had a meal in Telaga resto in Modernland Tangerang.

My wish for Grandma: wish you live a long life, health and wealth, wisdom and compassion and all the good qualities.

The food's okay but nothing special. The great thing is meeting the big family. You might not know it, but my big family is real BIG one ;)

Here's some pics..

26 before 27

Prologue: today I'm officially 26yo +1month and I just make time to post this here. This happened to be my birthday contemplation and resolution.

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Accidentally I found this journal, which I have been abandoning since new year. I got this list: 25 before 26, which consists of 25 things to be completed before I turned 26 (though it actually consisted of 6 things so far) and guess what, I haven't done even ONE of them. So sad, because I turned 26, like 3 days ago!

So, now I'll write another list of 26  before 27.
Due date: 15 Aug 2012

Here we go:
1. Make my own craft
2. learn to cook Indonesian food
3. Saving
4. Buy my own gold bar :)
5. Write min. twice in a month in my blog
6. More listening than talk
7. Attend a retreat
8. Go to Pulau Seribu
9. Start the house renovation
10. Visit the doctor regularly
11. Meet the besties once in a month
12. Spend an hour a week with sister
13. Call home more often
14. Join a beauty class DONE in Nov 2011
15. Visit the chatbook friends
16. Confirm my attendance to my bestfriend's wedding
17. Buy a gift for a special someone DONE in Oct 2011
18. Start my own financial plan and implementing it
19. Subscribe Martha Steward Living magazine DONE starting September 2011

20. More involved in charity events
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22.
23.
24.
25.
26.

[I'll complete the list soon - hopefully]
-originally written on 18Aug2011 00:28-
pic from here

Fixing things

Put "commitment", "attitude", and "performance management" in one conversation with a mad staff and it will be rage.

Once again - God, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Please.

I think I just want everyone to try again and I would just hope for everyone's clear mind on this. Have a great day :)

-originally written on 13Sep2011-

I owe this

Tentang asa dan saya

Harta yg hilang tidaklah mengapa, asalkan asa tidaklah patah. 

Tahukah kamu, mungkin kita tak punya kuasa untuk menghindari kehilangan harta, tapi asa adalah api di dalam jiwa. Jagalah ia menjalani hari dan memutar kembali roda kehidupan. 

Karmaku, karmamu, karma kita semua, membawa kita pada situasi yang sama. Kehilangan. Harta. Tapi. Bukan. Asa. 

Ini pilihan. 

Dan. Saya. memilih. Untuk. Kembali. Melangkahkan. Kaki. 

Sekian.

The next 17days off

Yap, i'll be having my next 17days off again 
Things to do within that sacret 17:
1. Going to a friend's wed
2. Going on a vacation with a pal
3. Go shopping with mom
4. Go to jogja with office people
5. Celebrating vesak
6. Go enjoy my days off

Wish me luck!